Applying to college can feel overwhelming, but it’s also a chance to learn a lot about yourself and your goals. While the process takes time and effort, there are ways to make it manageable and even enjoyable. Whether you’re working on essays, gathering recommendation letters, or choosing where to apply, it’s important to stay focused and keep some key ideas in mind.
First, don’t be afraid to ask for help. This might be the most important advice anyone can give you. Teachers, counselors, friends, and family members are all part of your support system. If you’re struggling to write your essays or need someone to check your grammar, reach out. It’s okay to admit you don’t have all the answers. The people around you want to see you succeed and will often provide advice, encouragement, and perspective that you might not have thought about on your own.
Share your essays with as many people as possible. Your English teacher, a friend who knows you well, or even a family member can help you polish your writing. Every reader will catch different things—maybe a weak sentence, a typo, or a section that could be more personal. Don’t take constructive criticism personally; instead, use it to make your essay stronger and more authentic. Your essay is your chance to share your story and let admissions officers see who you really are, so the extra effort is worth it.
Another major tip: don’t procrastinate. It’s easy to push things off when you feel like you have plenty of time, but deadlines creep up quickly. Start your applications as early as you can, and aim to finish them well before they’re due. This gives you time to fix last-minute errors, avoid unnecessary stress, and, most importantly, enjoy your senior year. Once you hit “submit,” you’ll feel a huge weight lifted off your shoulders, and you’ll have more time to focus on other things like spending time with friends and preparing for the next chapter of your life.
Sometimes, even after all your hard work, things don’t go exactly as planned. If you’re deferred from a school, try not to take it personally. A deferral simply means the admissions office needs more time to evaluate your application. It’s not a no—it’s a “not yet.” Take it as a sign to continue working hard and stay hopeful. And if you do face rejection, remember: rejection is redirection. It might feel disappointing in the moment, but often, it’s just life steering you toward something better suited for you. Many students end up loving schools they initially overlooked. Everything happens for a reason, and you'll find your place.
The college application process is challenging, but it’s also an opportunity to grow. Stay organized, seek support, and don’t let fear hold you back. No matter what happens, trust that you’ll end up where you’re meant to be. The journey is just as important as the destination, so take a deep breath and embrace the process—you’ve got this!
Becky Machlovitz is a BBG living in Boca Raton, Florida and is a competitive dancer!
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